A New Therapy Without Tools

What is traditional therapy?

Traditional therapy assumes that you have to go into such “problematic/painful” worlds to be free of them. Here are some examples:

The way out of depression is assumed to be discoverable within the reality of depression. We talk about what is in our reality, all about depression and its effects that blight our lives. We then try to find solutions using that reality as the foundation, hoping it would make our realities easier, usually with techniques, counselling, and, in more severe cases, medication.
The way out of adverse circumstances is to change what is in our reality that contains the negativity. We consider that our circumstances in our reality are negative. Therefore, we assume that by changing these circumstances, we can remove negativity from the reality we observe and create space for positivity. This might be a change of occupation, searching for another partner, or finding somewhere else to live, to name but a few. In the most desperate or extreme cases, suicide or murder become options when one goes really deep into that reality, wondering where the real solution is.
Letting go of the past is to revisit the past so it reappears in our reality. We assume that this is the only way to make peace with the past that’s painful for the person to go through, often over and over again. It’s like watching a painful movie stuck on repeat, hoping it will be the last time we watch it. It is as if the past has the power to bring what happened in the past back into our present moment reality, and we feel powerless to prevent that from happening.
We try to make sense of bad behavior by talking to a professional, whether it’s something we did or someone else did. To speak about destructive behaviors, it has to appear in our realities first. We talk to someone about this, and it often becomes judgmental and critical. The feeling is usually one of upset and anger, frequently resulting in ideas of “getting your own back” or “putting right what’s wrong,” assuming that will provide peace within our realities, when such actions almost always makes things even worse.

Discovering the pattern

In all of the examples above, can you see a pattern? One that has more to do with reality rather than the nature of the problem? Something that all problems are a part of instead of looking at the individual nature of specific problems. Once this pattern is observed, it goes a long way toward understanding traditional therapy.

For me, traditional therapy is an attempt to look into your reality with the “problem,” and then by taking a closer look into that problematic reality, we can find the solution to that problem. It is a bizarre concept to find solutions in a reality with problems. Indeed, a problem and the solution being in the same reality should cancel each other out, meaning there would be no problems. Yet, problems keep on persisting. This is a clue that it’s not like that. The solution or answer isn’t where we might first think it is. We want to be done with these problems once and for all so we don’t keep revisiting the same realities that prevent us from having nicer and healthier realities.

Such therapists who work with problematic realities, even with the best of intentions, are invested in your problems or pain points because of a belief in where the solution or answer lies. This exposes the therapist to the risk of getting caught up in the problems and is no longer helpful to you. You already know what it’s like getting caught up in your problems, and therapists are no different when they get caught up.

It raises the question, “Surely there must be another way?”

Clients do not have to go into any ‘problems’ anymore.

Now that we know the answer is not found within the reality with the problem or pain, taking clients into such complex and complicated worlds doesn’t make sense. What a relief for the clients—and, by extension, the therapist, too!

Clients can begin looking forward to working this way, knowing that the problems will not be the focus of the conversation. Instead, they can focus on something positive, hopeful, and, dare I say it, incredibly insightful. This positivity will help you because there is no negative reality that could block the positive from appearing. This ‘taking a break from negative realities’ is our opportunity to look in a different direction that few people know about.

We are not saying that you don’t have problems. We respect that you may have realities with problems in them. We do not reject or ignore your concerns. We are saying that there is another direction, one that could shed a very different kind of light on the problem that won’t come from the problem itself.

What the “tool-less” therapist is listening for

The therapist listens to how the client understands the structure of realities rather than what is in their realities and therefore what they do with them.

Sometimes, the client is asked to share what is going on for them because where there is ‘the what,’ there is reality. Without ‘the what,’ there is no reality, and the therapist will not be any wiser in understanding the client’s structure of reality.

If the client does share something, once the therapist has a sense of how the client understands the structure of realities, regardless of whether the client is aware of a structure or not, the therapist takes charge and changes the conversation. It moves away from ‘what clients do with what is in their realities’ to ‘seeing the structure in which their realities take place.’

In this direction, the client allow themselves to see the bigger picture. This “bigger picture” gives them the chance to see whether to take their realities to heart or not, instead of taking it for granted that we have to do something with what is in our realities. After all, if the client’s reality is out of alignment with the structure of reality – it informs them that this reality is not one to take to heart. Why invest time or energy thinking about what to do with a reality that doesn’t make sense?

At the end of the day, realizing any part of the structure of realities applies to all realities anyone can have, including the ones that appear to be unarguable! This is where the therapist can be very helpful to the client. This is why sometimes it’s not necessary for the client to share anything about what’s going on for them and instead look in the direction of the structure of reality.

The answer – wisdom and insight – is never where the problem or pain is.

Insight helps you to see more of the structure of reality. Insight is what lets us be mentally healthy again. Insight is a cleansing of the negativities in the mind in two simultaneous ways. Insight is a realization of how the mind works – part of the structure – which, in turn, makes you see that what you thought was the reality on the outside is your thought-created reality on the inside, within Mind. Once you see it’s on the inside, that’s the bridge for wisdom to come to you.

Wisdom helps you practically and constructively. It is 100% tailored to you. It’s ever-present. Wisdom is a never-ending ocean of infinite intelligence and knowledge. If you experience wisdom, you’ve had an insight. Wisdom is receiving knowledge of a higher order that increases your understanding and intelligence, and the new knowledge you see or hear simplifies what was complex. This transforms your realities and experiences positively because you’re seeing more of the structure of reality. You gain a greater context for understanding reality. With greater understanding comes less figuring out and analyzing, leading to a more peaceful mind. How can unlocking a wiser intelligence and higher knowledge not benefit you?

Downing the tools of the outside for a quieter mind.

You down your tools for the outside because they don’t work for the inside.

There are only two psychological dimensions within the Mind: the Inside and the Outside. Yes, the ‘inside’ is inside the mind, and the ‘outside’ is also inside the mind! Cosmic humor!

Both dimensions have the ability to create realities, but such realities can only be created if you are there to receive them. If you are in the inside dimension, you’ll get realities from the inside, and nothing from the outside. If you are in the outside dimension, you’ll get realities from the outside, and nothing from the inside. It all occurs within Mind, and therefore Mind is the creator of all realities.

Without either of these two dimensions, there is no possibility of observing and taking part in the world we live in, not because of the world, but because there would be no reality for us to respond to. We respond to reality within Mind, not of the world. This is why we have senses, to gather sensory data so we can include it in our realities, yet, all sensory data are neutral. The tree doesn’t tell you it’s a tree, it’s your reality that tells you the tree is a tree. Without a reality, how can we make use of our senses? Without a reality, this world you live in could not be realized, for example, the tree you’d never know about because you need a reality to know it’s there.

All realities are inextricably tied to the dimension that created them, and therefore can never leave the dimension from whence they came. It is as if there is an impermeable barrier that prevents realities from moving from one dimension to another.

The inside doesn’t need tools when wisdom is in the same dimension. Why would it when wisdom is infinite? Only you can cross dimensions, but taking any realities with you will prevent you from crossing over. That’s why it’s going to take insight, not thinking, to transport you from the outside to the inside. As you cross from the outside to the inside, you will have realities with wisdom. As you are inside, the tools of the outside are left behind in the outside dimension and no longer present in our reality, simply because you are not there! That’s another load off the mind. There’s a reason why this website is called QuietMind.io!

“Mental Wellbeing and wisdom live in a non-negotiable dimension. Yet, you have free will to override which dimension you want your reality to come from.” ~ Brett Chitty.

The Three Principles offer wisdom.

This is why exploring The Three Principles can allow us to realize wisdom, because wisdom is included within the Principles of Mind, The Principle of Thought, and The Principle of Consciousness. Not your mind, your thoughts, or your consciousness. These Three Principles are all inside, and they are already present.

The Three Principles show us that there is a unique bridge between wisdom and you. This bridge is realizable so that we can be blessed by the gifts of wisdom that will appear in our realities repeatedly, each time better than the last. This is your divine inheritance. Wisdom and insight are the greatest gift anyone could hope to receive.

Now, it’s up to you.

There is but one condition for you to realize Wisdom. Only you can take the journey. No one else can do it for you. It’s a journey that requires faith in something you didn’t know existed. It’s a journey without a destination. It’s a journey not in time, location, or matter. That journey can be taken. It’s a journey to seemingly nothing so the invisible can be revealed. Discovering and learning about the Three Principles is the first and only step you’ll need. Become an explorer of the Three Principles and let the gifts of wisdom provide you with new positive thoughts, happier realities, and higher knowledge.

The therapist is only a guide, not the solution provider.

The therapist in this new therapy knows you have access to wisdom and the mental wellbeing included. It wouldn’t make sense for the therapist in a therapeutic setting to give you anything, including another reality, no matter how beautiful. For the therapist to give the client a reality is the equivalent of feeding the client for a day before needing to come back the next day (and the therapist can make more money!).

If the therapist points the client to the structure of reality, then that’s the equivalent of the client to be informed via wisdom to have wisdom-based and mentally healthy realities for the rest of the client’s life. Once the client has a good sense of the structure of reality, the work of the therapist is done. The client has the sense of direction to know insightfully which dimension healthy realities come from.

The therapist is there to guide you as you learn about the Three Principles in your own unique way. It is to keep you on the straight and true without being distracted by bright, shiny objects that may appear in your reality that attempt to make you lose sight of the structure of reality, and there are many.

And then, before you know it, you’ve arrived because wisdom came to you when you least expected or looked for it. I can attest to this. That’s when you know you’ve crossed the bridge and uncovered the inside dimension. At that point, the Three Principles proved their existence to you by demonstrating that they gave you the gift of wisdom via insight. The Three Principles of Mind, Thought, and Consciousness contain the wisdom and knowledge we need and, therefore, the solutions.

Your insight into the hidden structure of reality will come from these Three Principles because reality is made of the Principles of Mind, Thought, and Consciousness. Therefore, transformation must occur with insight, and problems begin to clear up like mist in the morning sun.

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